Getting pregnant for many women is like drinking water – it just happens. But there are some very special women who are destined to be great mothers but they have a more difficult time getting pregnant.

There are several reasons why a woman can’t get pregnant:

One, her partner refuses to be a parent and would rather enjoy a “blissful life as a single.” Priorities don’t match and it’s an emotional rollercoaster ride trying to cope with feelings of something lacking and having no support from the person who matters most.

Two, there are problems with the partner or spouse’s sperm count. This is something that may be treatable and reversed if the cause can be determined. There are hundreds of cases where simple lifestyle changes have reversed the condition or the cause is an infection that can be cured with antibiotics.

Three, the woman has problems with ovulation which can also be faced with a treatment or alternative procedure to pregnancy.

There are many other reasons why getting pregnant is delayed. One should not see a problem right away and stressing. It just makes the situation worse. Stress is one of the reasons why a woman is unable to conceive. There are so-called miracle babies conceived naturally after years of trying and then giving up. The absence of stress helps although it’s not exactly medically proven.

The point is getting pregnant can happen after months or years of trying. There are medical and non-medical treatments available.  If you are just in your first few years of planning a pregnancy, try these traditional methods:

1. Plan around your ovulation calendar but don’t make it your Bible. Not only does it put too much pressure on your partner or spouse, it takes away the bond between the couple and turns it into a technical operation
2. Eat healthy, exercise but don’t overdo it, and enjoy a balanced life with sufficient rest
3. Have a complete check-up with your gynecologist and find out if there are any underlying problems
4. Avoid smoking, alcohol, and vaginal lubricants. This is also to prepare your body for a healthy home for your baby should you get pregnant
5. Talk to your spouse or partner. Get him involved by at least agreeing to a baby. He can help you get pregnant by being supporting and knowing when and how to keep you grounded. Women can get too intense about getting pregnant and often need someone to pull the reins

Finally, if you’re concerned because you have had problems in the past like an abortion or have taken strong medications, see your doctor to discuss your concerns. Generally, these do not affect attempts to get pregnant but it can cause problems during pregnancy like vaginal bleeding and low birth weight.